lunes, 16 de abril de 2018

Year to #unfollow.

Niener, niener! I now speak "twitterese" and everything! LOL Nope, I've been playing with this title since December, in fact, but several things have happened that kept me from bugging you to read my blog.

In part you may be grateful partly to the fact that my computer was hick-teethed thanks to a certain blond little one and partly to the mad, mad move I just orchestrated ;)

Now, then, let's get down to business:
As some of you know, this past year I had several clashes with a certain character, which got me thinking: "What the fuck am I doing putting up with this asshole?" and that is quite literal. For that matter, why do any of us have to put up with people who aren't good for us and, taking it further, even tend to harm us?

I got several answers. One was "Poor thing, her life hasn't worked out the way she wanted..." Well, damn it, neither has mine. Another one was, "Give her a break, she has loads of issues..." Yeah... like my life is all rose petals.

But my absolute favorite was, "She's your (insert close familial relation here)." Well, with apologies to my audience, I was actually forced to shit myself laughing... What in the fuck does family relationship - close or otherwise - have to do with putting up with a nutjob? Plus and besides, I have seen the results of forgiving screwover after screwover because "Oh, but she's my (insert close familial relation here again)." I put up with it twice and, when I realized I was simply not willing to stand for being fleeced, I said "Fuck it."

And I did it. I'm paying the price; make no mistake that everything in this life has a cost. But I live MUCH more relaxed and what had begun to rot in my life because of this other relationship is starting to bloom again.

I will give you another example, just as true, although much less extreme. Once upon a time there were two life-long friends... one was half nuts, the other one nuts and a half. The half-nut (believe it or not that was me LOL) generally looked out for the nut-and-a-half, who had the nasty little habit of showing up only when she was in trouble. That was another relationship that went down the #unfollow road.

After all, why keep up a relationship that only takes and takes and never gives anything in return? I mean, I'm not some disgusting mercenary who demands an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth be it good or bad, but I'm also not (so legend has it) an idiot. What occurred to me is that NOBODY is NOBODY'S carpet although, if we lie down, someone will always find it easy to tread upon us.

So, latecoming, but here's my New Year's resolution. To hell with people who isn't worth it. I posted it on FB and I'll repeat it here. If someone gives you nothing good, to hell with them. If someone only takes without giving in return, may they fuck off.

I don't mean, of course, idiotic little teen-ish things like "They haven't called me in three months..." Yeah... is your finger broken that you can't work a goddamn phone? That's not what any type of relationship is about. I'd say the key is KNOWING that, when you need that person, they will be there, one way or another.
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Here's another example: I have a friend who has a teflon memory. It's common knowledge, so I'm not revealing any state secrets - I'm not wikileaks, after all. Anyway, the thing is that, every year, on MY birthday (yes, you read right) I give this woman a call so she can wish me a happy birthday because I know she forgets.

I know people who would be mortally offended by such injurious behavior... however, the day I called this woman, hysterical, and asked her to look after my children right then and there, she didn't hesitate even a second and said, "Bring them over." Not only that, when she saw the state I was in, she cancelled her plans and gave me all the support I so badly needed in that moment.

And THAT, ladies and gents, is a GREAT friend.

I have more examples because, quite frankly, I'm very fortunate in my friends... I also have examples having to do with other relatives and "beaus", but it would take to long to go into all of them.

So, to be concise, I leave you with this:
Whom are you going to #unfollow this year?